Updated: 26-05-2025
Dos and Don’ts of First Time Sex
First-time sex or intercourse is both a scary prospect as well as an exhilarating one.
As both partners are usually new, first-timers can cause a lot of fear and uncertainty.
Individuals should follow a few dos and don’ts for having a memorable and scintillating experience during their first intercourse.
Having first-time sex is never as straightforward as most people think or understand.
In reality, the hopes generally exceed the experience.
In males, it can be over all too soon, without a great deal of fulfilment.
Now, let us have a look at first-time sex from both a female and male perspective and how to tackle this critical time in individuals’ lives.
First-time sex in a Female
For the female, it can be tense with pain rather than pleasure and with a fast ending, far from an enjoyable experience.
However, with the proper approach, first-time sex can be made more satisfying and rewarding rather than tense.
First-time sex in a male (Virgin Male)
Based on the individual’s knowledge of sexual experience, he will be restricted to masturbation and theory.
Neither masturbation nor theory gives a virgin male a first-time sexual experience.
However, conversations fill the gaps for the first-timer who has wrong expectations and misconceptions.
Virgin Female
Based on the age of the female, she may have had many clitoral orgasms.
A first-time sexual experience and man-force can provide numerous unexpected situations and feelings.
If the female hymen is intact, she can feel some real pain as well.
If there has not been adequate foreplay or if she is not having enough lubrication before the male insertion.
The female, being young, will have high expectations.
Positively, if the act is around 20 seconds and all she felt was pain and pressure, her romantic hopes will not have been fulfilled.
First Time Sex Tips
The following are some of the tips to make the first time sex a better experience:
Give sometime
Don’t rush. It might take your time, so enjoy the experience.
It’s not a race that has to be finished quickly!
Communicate
Many of them might feel awkward talking about sex with their partner.
If you are about to have sex with your partner, you must be able to convey the fact that it’s your first time.
This helps in lowering the expectations and makes the experience enjoyable for both partners.
Listen
If an individual is having first-time sex, he or she doesn’t have a lot of experience.
Pay attention to your partner; they might help you understand what turns them on and gets them going.
It does not mean they had sex earlier many times or experienced it.
It might be because they are more aware of sexual knowledge than you.
Practice Makes Perfect
If an individual’s first-time sex isn’t that enjoyable, irrespective of whether they are male or female, don’t be that surprised. It isn’t for most of them.
It does get better, however, with lots and lots of practice.
If an individual is contemplating having first-time sex, it’s normal to be worried.
First-timers face the same sort of anxiety.
In order to make your first-time experience more memorable and enjoyable, follow the below dos and don’ts:
Do’s:
- Pay attention to your partner
- Be comfortable with your partner
- Say no if you’ve changed your mind
- Build up slowly
Don’ts:
- Forget contraception
- Do it if you’re too drunk
- Have very high expectations
